I am scared I will never have kids…is this a common fear?
I’m a 25 year old man…I have this unreasonable worry that I will never be able to conceive a kid…either I’ll never find someone young enough, or I’ll have fertility problems.
I’m starting to feel this immense pressure…how do I get over this (other than having kids)
September 7th, 2010 at 1:46 pm
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September 7th, 2010 at 2:24 pm
It’s common among men.
September 7th, 2010 at 3:03 pm
It is for me, yes.
I’m 21, but I often see kids all happy with their parents, and I wonder if I’ll ever be able to share that happiness. I believe most of it is me just thinkin about it too deeply, but it is a reasonable fear in many regards, too. I suggest you don’t look into it a bit too much, because it’ll only enhance your pressure, and before you know it, you’ll just make it seem 100% obvious you won’t have kids. Most of your issues derives from the mental part, anyway, so you need to be more confident in your abilities.
September 7th, 2010 at 3:37 pm
Be careful what you wish for,,, a bunch of kids means more child support, Or at least 20 years of trying to raise them right.
September 7th, 2010 at 4:20 pm
You at least recognize that this fear is unreasonable, which is the first step. Let’s put this into perspective- as a man, you can create children for the rest of your life. Men have impregnated women well into their 60s and beyond. You are 25, way too young to be paranoid about it. If you truly are concerned about your own fertility, then you can have your sperm tested, though it will be at a cost. Moving beyond yourself, finding someone young enough shouldn’t be your concern- you should be focusing on someone that you love enough to want to have children with. Age shouldn’t be your prime focus. Fertility treatments are increasingly becoming more advanced than ever, so should that women can have children into their 40s. Anything beyond that is hard, because having children is a large physical energy requirement, and your energy level decreases as you age. Bottom line is that you shouldn’t feel any pressure at your age. And besides, you seem to be irrationally focusing on conception- perhaps if you wanted a child and couldn’t, you can always adopt a baby.
September 7th, 2010 at 4:54 pm
Please don’t thumb down when I say this- YOU don’t conceive the kid, the woman does. And what do you mean you won’t find someone young enough? How young is young enough? Plenty of women today are having babies well into their forties. In fact most women’s eggs don’t become geriatric until forty.
I had my fourth child at 35. No problems, no complications.
It is normal to be concerned about fertility. I worried about it before I started trying to conceive. I now have 4 (LOL). Chances are there is nothing wrong with your fertility but if you are unreasonably worried about it you can always have testing done to be sure.